Rhett Kaines: It depends on the person declining. Our wedding is in 9 days, and we just got a decline 2 days ago. Some people are procrastinators...but they usually send checks in their declines, which helps with last-minute wedding expenses! Haha
Kiersten Clayburn: Different halls and restaurants do their logistics differently. Buffets are sometimes presented as a less expensive options, but sometimes they are not less expesive, so you can't assume that that's the reason (more food need to be prepared to keep the chafing dishes full in a buffet-- for plated dinners it's clear how much need to be cooked and plated). Plated dinners can sometimes be more expensive than buffet because it makes you have to use more waitstaff, but again, every wedding hall seems to price things so differently from each other and work their packages and logistics so differently, that buffet can be the less expensive option in one place and not in another......Show more
Carmina Stick! ney: There are many readings that can be used. I would think she would want you to read something that includes the Bride and Groom and possibly guests. Not focused on just her. The excerpt below is a perfect one for a wedding if you think about it the words are so true to love and marriage, hurt and how love takes a long time. Everyday you grow in your love for one another. You start out in love but then you grow more in love year by year. I hope you are able to find just the right saying to make the wedding day special. The net poets link below has a great poem Yesterday, Today, and Tomorrow which a lot of ceremonies use these exact words. Best of Luck on your search. EXCERPT FROM THE VELVETEEN RABBIT~ By Margery Williams ~"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?" "Real isn't how you are made," said! the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a chi! ld loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but Really loves you, then you become Real." "Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit. "Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt." "Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?" "It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get all loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
Lashawn Zabarkes: Buffet-style meals at a wedding can be done with any faith. It is not a tradition of non-Jewish weddings, though. I've been to many Christian weddings where! a plated (sit-down) meal was served. I will have a Christian wedding reception that will be a plated meal.However, a few good reasons to have a buffet-style dinner are:- Typically, it is less expensive than a plated meal- The buffet offers more options/choices for pickier eaters - and lots of variety is appreciated by many guests- A buffet makes seating a bit easier when coming up with a seating plan. A buffet allows you to have the freedom of not assigning seats (I think you should assign seats anyway, though). But it also makes it easier when you are giving counts to the reception hall. You don't have to let them know that there are XX beef, XX chicken, etc. And some halls require you to seat people specifically at certain seats at the table so they know who is being served what. This can be chaotic.Why not have a buffet style?- If you have a large number of guests it will take a long time for each guest to go through the line (our hall did not recommend a buffet fo! r over 120 people). - Buffets can be questionable sometimes in that th! e food can become cold and a bit stale (a good caterer will not allow this to happen, though)...Show more
Kenneth Thuesen: You will find that they will come mixed in with the 'yes' responses; once the RSVP date has passed, however, and you are forced to call those who have forgotten to respond, my experience has shown that most (if not all) of these people will be no's.
Omar Phipps: You know, it's cost as well as efficiency. Out of the last 20 weddings I have been to, only two were not buffets. One had service to the table, the other was family-style, with food on tables.
Palmira Lochridge: buffets are less experience. if you price it around a typical luncheon will cost about 40 - 50 dlls considering what type of food it is. but however, with the buffets, although it is very cheaper, you much check with the catering department of the hotel to find out.all hotels have catering department and are there to attend to you.
Ty Kirton: They'll just come sc! attered through your acceptances. You're going to find there will be a minority who will either not respond or forget to respond. A day or so after your RSVP date is when you should start making calls to the non-responders.
Jed Porada: more choicesable to pig out morecheaper
Pei Heatherly: my best friend that i grew up with asked me to read something at her wedding... any suggestions? it could be religious or not.
Clifford Riggleman: funny stories. tell a funny story and maybe bring in a funny picture or home movie or something like that. i think it would be even better if you could get a slideshow of all pictures put together if her venue would work with something like that. and instead of you having to talk at the wedding, you can pre-record everything and have your voice going as pictures are going.
Torrie Weissenbach: mixed
Derick Kinnard: He'll ask u!
Cedric Grimstead: What are the signs? He has mentioned it, but i think nowadays peo! ple are so scared to get married because of the divorce rate. Hes been ! married before and it ended very badly. She had a child (not his) that he lost as well. So it was really hard on him.
Tawny Grosskreutz: We're doing this at my wedding, but it's so people can eat as much as they want, there's greater variety, etc. Through my caterer, it costs the same as a sit down meal.It's not a gentile tradition, people do buffets for different reasons.
Alden Sabio: maybe I should have been more specific....it was a buffet style food....where we had to go and serve ourselves from a # of choices...but however it was NOT as much as we wanted to eat. They did serve the cake at our table tough.
Phil Kuarez: They come in mixed....And you will have some that will come after the due date, and some that you end up having to call because they have not RSVP either way and your caterer needs a count.
William Vickerman: I know I should expect for everyone invited to accept and not invite over that amount, and I have.... but was just wonderi! ng (for those who have planned weddings or had a wedding): When did your declines typically come in? My invitations went in the mail last week, I've already gotten a bunch of yes's, only a couple of no's. I'm just curious as to if most of the ones who reply no come in first, mixed in, or you find out they're no's when you call to follow up on missing responses.
Ardelia Liptow: You'll know if he really loves you enough to marry you. How I found out before my fiance proposed to me was his mom! He talked to her about it, a few times before he actually did. It will take some time if he has already been married, because of the fear of losing someone again, just try not to stress about it and enjoy the relationship as it is. if youre happy, youre happy. just let him take his time, and when he feels right, it will happen! Good Luck!
Boyce Gilhooly: its for during the ceremony not a speech at the reception...
Francisco Schonhardt: why do you miss eating yon kipp! ers? lol!
Aron Ramu: It's not really tradition, but you're a! ble to have variety instead of just one entree that some people may not like. Cost also is a consideration.
Lana Uliano: if the officiant does not use it during the ceremony, you could always read 1 corinthians chapter 13.... http://www.usccb.org/nab/bible/1corinthians/1corin...
Bell Pasco: It's an issue of ease. It's actually generally a little more expensive to do a buffet, as you have to provide enough of EVERY dish for every one to have some (although it sounds as if it wasn't done right at weddings you've been to).The alternative of tracking everyone's dinner order is a lot of work, in particular if you have a lot of guests. Then, there's the issue of people changing their minds when they get there, or forgetting that they ordered the beef, and they just had a roast beef sandwich, etc. It's a lot of work to keep all of this straight. I wish it weren't, 'cause I'm not relishing this task for my daughter's upcoming wedding, but I think the budget says we! can't afford the buffet....Show more
Janita Tetlow: Generally the couple pick their own readings. However, Here are two different readings. They're from a book by Mercedes Lackey.This bond, this joining, is not meant to be a fetter. A joining is a partnership, not two people becoming one. Two minds cannot fuse, two souls cannot merge, two hearts cannot keep to the same time. If two are foolish enough to try this, one must overwhelm the other, and that is not love, nor is it compassion, nor responsibility. You are two who choose to walk the same path, to bridge the differences between you with love. You must remember and respect those differences and learn to understand them, for they are part of what made you come to love in the first place. Love is patient, love is willing to compromiseâ€"love is willing to admit it is wrong. There will be hard times; you must face them as bound warriors do, side by side, not using the weapon of your knowledge to tear at each other! . There will be sadness as well as joy, and must support one another th! rough the grief and sorrow. There will be painâ€"but pain shared is pain halved, as joy shared is joy doubled, and you each must sacrifice your own comfort to share the pain of the other. And yet, you must do all this and manage to keep each other from wrong actions, for a joining means that you also pledge to help one another at all times. You must lead each other by example. Guide and be willing to be guided. Being joined does not mean that you accept what is truly wrong, being joined means that you must strive that you both remain in the light and the right. You must not pledge yourselves thinking that there will be no strife between you. That is fantasy, for you are two and not one, and there will inevitably come conflict that it will be up to you to resolve. You must not pledge yourselves thinking that all will be well from this moment on. That is a dream, and dreamers must eventually wake. You must come to this joining fully ready, fully committed, and fully respectfu! l of each other.Now you will no longer fear the storm, for you find shelter in each other.Now the winter cannot harm you, for you warm each other with love.Now when strength fails, you will be the wind to each other’s wings.Now the darkness holds no danger, for you will be the light to each other’s path.Now you will defy despair, for you will bring hope to each other’s heart.Now there will be no more loneliness, for there will always be a hand reaching out to aid you when all seems darkest.Where there were two paths, now there is one.May your days together be long upon the earth, and each day blessed with joy in each other.
Shamika Schools: You must ask them what their requirements for kosher food are (different people hold by different standards) then see if you can arrange it with the caterer. Know that it is almost impossible to serve kosher next to nonkosher unless you serve those un-appetizing, vacuum-packed, airline meals. Many Orthodox (MO or ultraorthodo! x) don't feel comfortable at non-orthodox weddings and prefer to stay h! ome. The 3 or 4 times I have been to non-Orthodox weddings, it was in Israel and I knew the catering was kosher, but there were other issues such as mixed/ immodest dancing, no facility for netilat yadayim (i.e. having to go to the kitchen), etc., that you just simply prefer to skip out on. You can try to 'appease' but if they still refuse, do not take it personally. Their level observance was a free choice just like your level of observance was yours....Show more
Cletus Crotts: This is because it's cheaper...has nothing to do with Jewish or Non-Jewish. For instance....go to an Italian wedding...never...never a buffet...at least 7 courses of served food with a little sorbet here and there to cleanse the pallet between courses (ensalada, soup, ziti, sorbet, fruit, main course, desert w/expresso (coffee) and then some food too go...cookies MMMnnn
Carmelina Enoch: Although it is common to do this at weddings, it actually isn't cheaper. Every caterer that I work wi! th charges $3 more per person for a buffet style than a plated meal. Some people just choose to do it this way so they can offer their guests a choice. Rather than having people choose one of two entrees, they choose to offer a variety that their guests can have over and over.
Melina Minneweather: cost and ease im positive, but interesting question!
Ty Kirton: How do you know? He tells you. Can't wait to find out? Ask him if he thinks there is any future for the two of you. (Hope you have been a couple long enough. This would scare a guy if you have only been dating 3 months. ;-) )
Merlin Fleischhacker: I've been to non-Jewish weddings with sit-down dinners. I thinks it's more a matter of preference. Personally, I chose a buffet for my wedding because I didn't want to have to keep track of what each guest wanted and then having people change their minds, etc. With a buffet they can decide what to eat whenever they want and eat as much of it as t! hey want.
Jeannine Vassie: Buffets are less expensive but not a t! radition.
